Things You Are Not Prepared About Being a New Mother

Honestly, I don't know how many things that can be compared to the joy of giving birth. Giving life to another human being, to me, is the highest thing anyone can do. Simply put, the joy of being a parent is incomparable.

I can still remember when I gave birth to my little girl. I remembered staring at her for what felt like an eternity and crying uncontrollably. I wasn't crying because I was in pain or sad. No! It was quite the opposite. It was tears of joy. Finally, I felt fulfilled. At that moment, I felt so powerful and for some few seconds, I felt how God must have felt after creating the earth and making all things beautiful. It was an experience I will forever cherish.

But with the new babies come new challenges. No matter how many books you read, how many seminars and antenatal you attend, nothing you can do can really prepare you completely for motherhood. It is a job that you learn as you go.

For most of us mothers, when the doctor tells us that we are pregnant and show us that tiny image of our baby swimming in our womb during ultrasound session, what usually come to our mind in terms of getting prepared for motherhood is what clothes to buy, what baby cream to get, baby's crib and so on. But there are a lot of things we don't think about.

There are a lot of things they don't tell you about your being a new mum. Or they tell you a lot of things, but like me, I ignored them as I was just so excited becoming a mum and focusing on what things to get for my new baby. I was so focused on the beautiful image of me and my new baby and ignored - pretty much all the negativity that comes my way.  Moreover, there are lots of things we don't expect. While some things are better left unsaid, there are nuggets of information that can help you prepare better to embrace motherhood.

In this article, you will discover things mum who've been there wish they'd known:

1. You Sleeping Routine Will Change Completely

I bet no one told you about the sleepless nights that will follow immediately after giving birth, right? Sorry to be the one that breaks it to you, the way you used to sleep will be changed forever. Your baby will wake you up in the middle of the night for feeding, once, twice or if you were like me, at least 5 times a night! And just when you think she has been settled, she will wake you once again for yet another round of feeding or to change her nappy.

You will be lucky to get 3 of hours of straight sleep in the next few months. You will be so sleep-deprived that you will crave for an opportunity to sleep. You will be tired too and probably suffer headaches, irritability, and confusion as a result of your tiredness. Try to sleep whenever you can. You might need some help. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

2. You Will Be Worried Sick

Forget about the meltdown you have when shopping for the perfect cot or pram, now the baby is here, you will always be worried. You will be worried whenever she sneezes or feels a little hot. You may probably have your pediatrician on a speed dial. Don't worry; this is your maternal hormones kicking in. These hormones tend to reach sky high immediately after giving birth.
Speaking of hormones, expect to cry a lot after giving birth. Most new mothers do that a lot. They cry at all sorts of things and let the tiniest insignificant thing about their baby get them worried sick.
This is common. Even wild animals become overprotective after giving birth. Don't worry; you will get the hang of it with time. But the maternal hormone doesn't go away. As far as you have a child, you will always be worried. You will even put her own needs ahead of yours. That is just you being a mother.

3. Your Friends May Stop Talking To You

Surprised? Yes, it does happen! You find yourself falling out with your cliques. It is not because they are jealous or don't like you anymore, no! It simply because they may think that you are underwater with your new baby and won't like to be bothered. They may not understand that you need that interaction. After all, all that your baby does is sleep, eat, and pop. Call them over whenever you need them to chat

4. You Will Be More Forgetful

When you found yourself becoming more forgetful, there is no need to panic! You are not slipping into amnesia. You are probably too focused on satisfying the needs of your newborn that other things including yourself become less important. There may be some point that you will even forget to eat your breakfast or take a shower. It is really hard to see a first-time new mum that can keep it all together. The good news is, with time, you will learn to put yourself together and get back to your old self.
If you want to shop for babies cloth, make sure you do that before the baby comes. Once the baby arrives, you will be too busy to shop for new baby outfits.

5. You May Feel Alone

With so many things to do, you may feel like you are all alone. The truth is that, once the baby comes, 24 hours in a day won't ever be enough for you anymore. You may become overwhelmed at some point feeling like everything is being dumped on you.

You don't have to feel this way. The good news is that you can always turn to to your hubby, mum or close friends who have been there for emotional support. Also, don't be shy to ask for help regarding household chores or cooking. You need this the most!

Also remember, there are many online forums where you can learn how to deal with feeling alone after giving birth. Reach out to your local clinic and book that mum's group once you are ready.

Final Thought
Your baby will bring so much joy to your life. There are points when you may doubt your ability as a parent, this is normal. There is no way you can be 100% prepared, just do the best you can. Of course, preparing also includes shopping for baby. Fortunately, you can enjoy 10% discount when you shop for your baby at


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